Wednesday, 23 August 2017

Girls on Film

Throwback Thursday!

I wonder if you can remember your earliest memories relating to sex?

I always imagined that people didn't really have sex fantasies until they hit puberty, because the body wasn't ready to act on them until that point. But now I think we may have them earlier but don't process them as being sexual, or not until we look back because we wonder where our 'kinks' came from.  

When I wrote the erotic tale 'Fine Day for a Picnic' I touched on my early experience of getting a thrill from being tied up.  I was really young, maybe about 7, around the same time that I loved watching the Scooby-Do cartoon, not just to be scared (by the ghosts/ monsters) but because I longed to be Daphne, who was forever being held captive and tied up until the rest of the gang rescued her.  In these scenarios the vulnerability appealed to me, 

Later in life I found the idea ever more appealing, especially the way it was portrayed in films:

In the plots of these films, capturing the female character is usually a vehicle for the villain to lure the hero into his clutches or make him more vulnerable, but a helpless girl under threat of being ravished against her will is tantalising to me, hey the heroes being tied up gives me a sexual frisson too!  

I can't think why it took me so long to realise bondage was my kink, when I think of what I have got a thrill from watching over the years.  Spanking and whipping is often a theme of period dramas, and the link with this and the 'non-consent' scenarios began to make fantasies blossom in my head as puberty sent hormones racing round my body.  A lot is made of the "sexism" of the portrayal of supporting woman in the films back in the sixties and seventies, but I don't doubt that in those less PC days (when people kept their perversions on the quiet) the film makers knew they were giving the audience illicit thrills with when they portrayed strong, dominant male heroes and villains using threat and restraint to take what pleasure they wanted from the helpless female characters.  O the flimsy, easily torn, costumes, the bodices laced tightly so they pushed breasts up like ripe fruit, how I longed to be dressed like that and feel the burning gaze of a lust-filled rascal rake over my trembling body.

Are we sure ladies got the vapours?  Might they not have been getting turned on but embarrassed about the liquid in their loins?  Maybe they wanted to be picked up and carried to a chaise longue by a handsome fellow in tight britches once they had swooned!!

I'd love to hear which big screen scenes grabbed your attention from pre-pubescence to now and whether you think it affected or triggered your kinks, please comment & share, you might give me and my Dark Darlings something new films to whack off to!

For a later blog, perhaps we could all get thinking about the strong female roles which may have inspired 'Dominatrix' kinks in some of us - Mrs Emma Peel (lots of leather!)
Xena Warrior Princess (less clothes, more leather straps and armour) and Lara Croft ... there are several to conjure with!

Thursday, 10 August 2017

Throwback Thursday - Hot July!

Rain, rain, go away ....

I am feeling bored by the rain now, in fact I'm completely over it!  I was having a lovely hot summer (my post in June is testament to that!)  but since I had my holiday in Portugal, the UK has been getting cooler and cloudier, and now its tipping with rain.  

I want to bring the scorching days and balmy nights back, I liked tanning and lazing about, and while I was on holiday I wrote a steamy erotic adventure, which I let my fellow blogger Miss Jezebella share on her site. [if you use the link below you'll be able to read it there] - this story should bring summer back!

I hope you enjoy this erotic adventure.  In my writing I like to tantalise and tease, building up slowly to the bump and grind of the sex act, but once I get to that most physical layer, I write it as vigorous, dirty, all barriers down, where both partners can let themselves go and lose all inhibitions in the strength of  passion, the primal act which sets them free.

Please Share!

I've toyed with the theme of exhibitionism in the 'picnic' story, so now I'm wondering what sexploits my readers have got up to in the past - Please share!  I'd love you to describe what you've got up to [in the comments].

OR - Maybe you have something that you're dying to try out - tell us that!  You might inspire other dark darlings to try it also!  Hey - maybe we can start a mexican wave of al fresco sexual encounters ~ where the participants might find they've got an audience!  (how thrilling!)

And please don't forget to send me suggestions for my tongue-in-cheek photo feature 'Posy Fails At ...'  To date -  my depiction of the rubber fetish has been my most popular post!

Monday, 7 August 2017

Tickling your Funny Bone!

Sex can be a serious business ...

but sometimes you just need to have a giggle.  I follow a few other sex bloggers and some post great pictures of themselves in dangerously sexy gear [Take a peek at these Sinful Sunday photos].  I have only recently ventured into sharing images of me with you, my dark darlings, but this weekend the idea for a fun 'theme' popped into my head (because laughing at yourself is sexy too, no?)  

Posy Fails at ...

Rubber Fetish

So here is the first of my theme - please let me know what you think, or suggest which fetish I might 'fail' at next!! 

Next Time - for those of you who are enjoying my full disclosure sex toy reviews, I have 2 new toys waiting to be taken for a spin!  Please comment on which you would like me to try out and review next:

  • Textured Sensual Glass Dildo
  • G-Tickler, Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator 

Thursday, 3 August 2017

How this Toy became Teacher's Pet!

In March I wrote a 2-part story featuring a couple getting frisky on a weekend away in Paris.  This little prober, which is part of the 'no frills' range from Lovehoney, had a starring role for the bedroom action in part 2.  It is an ideal beginners toy for anal fun, and I use it as often in my solo play as when the OH and I want to have a wild time.  It doesn't cost much [£9.99] and we've had so much pleasure from it that I needed to recommend it to my Dark Darlings and thought it would be fun to give a personal insight into how it can be used.  

As ever if you want to agree, disagree or share your own dark antics with toys, my readers and I would love you to comment below!

Lovehoney Basics Anal Prober 7 inch

This little 'purple jelly' coloured gizmo is 3 toys in 1!!  It's made of super-smooth  plastic  (I often don't need to use lube) which has a flex to it and of course is totally silent (as it's a prober not a vibe)! For  these reasons it is also really easy to clean (simply immerse in water and rinse, although a spritz with sex toy cleaner or wipes is also great, especially if you've used it anally).
Lovehoney BASICS Anal Prober 7 Inch

My own secret joy is that I use this toy as both a dildo and for anal fun!

Be selfish!

For solo play I love to use the wider smoother end as a slim but slippery dildo to tease myself with when I am concentrating more on clitoral or nipple stimulation, yet I want to feel the delicious addition of something sliding in and out.  Sometimes I find I reach orgasm quicker if I don't stretch and pound my pussy with something big or something which vibrates; In particular, if I'm reading erotica or watching porn to become aroused, instead of foreplay.  On such occasions I am not edging myself to a higher plateau of orgasm, rather I'm indulging in a quickie!

Be greedy!

On other occasions my partner uses the prober to double-up during stimulation of my clit and/or pussy by using the bubble shaped end, suitably lubricated.  He eases it inside my anus, one spherical bump at a time (there are 4 of them which increase in size very gradually) and as the probe is worked in and out, my sphincter muscle is teased and stimulated in a most deliciously arousing way.  I guess its no accident that this end reminds me of the love beads which are also popular for anal play,

Other couples who have reviewed this toy have used both ends for anal play, and some use this toy for dual penetration i.e. in combination with a dildo or vibrator, or during intercourse.  They report that this gives a lovely full sensation for the female while the male partners can feel the ridges of the probe through the membranes as they thrust!  I am, of course, inspired  to take my research further ASAP!

Be Generous

This jelly toy is great used on my partner anally while I give him oral or manual stimulation, taking care to ease it in very gently and with lots of lube, I alternate between stimulation of his straining cock and sensitive balls and teasing the jelly toy gradually further in before withdrawing it one sphere at a time.  My in-and out probing with it stimulates his 'p' spot and the combination of that and fellatio or a hand job  leads to very pleasurable orgasms for him!

Try something new

Anal sex has been a taboo area in the past for many people, but now the enlightened are finding that it enhances sex and masturbation in many different ways.  My advice is to start off gradually with small toys made of flexible material, do not jump to big, girthy, unforgiving toys too soon, as this might lead to pain instead of pleasure.

Equally importantly I'd suggest using lubricant to smooth the way for the toy.  There are lots on the market, and silicone based ones seem particularly good for anal use, but if you are at all concerned about damaging what your toy is made of/coated with, then use water-based lube.

Thirdly I'd suggest that the anal passage is cleansed before play as this will help all participants feel more relaxed.  This doesn't have to be humiliating or clinical (unless that is your kink!) and the douches work very well, being easy to use standing in your shower or over a bath/bidet.

For men, the stimulation of their prostate gland is possible through anal play as it surrounds the neck of the bladder and the urethra.  As I'm not a guy I can't tell you what it feels like, but I would definitely recommend discovering your 'p' spot for increased pleasure!

For women, the sphincter muscle throbs during orgasm, and so the presence of a prober or an anal plug at this stage increases the pleasure from the waves of her orgasm.  These are powerful throbs for sure,  the smaller butt plugs often get pushed out when I cum!  Another bonus for us girls is, with something being used anally there is a feeling of fullness, which is pleasurable in itself, but also the vaginal cavity looses some space, so we feel tighter!  Win win I say!

Take care

SAFETY: I don't advocate transferring the probe's use from one person to another without a thorough clean in-between.  I have never used the bulbous end of the toy anally because I prefer to keep it for vaginal use.  TIP:  clean anal-use toys with cold water instead of warm, as this prevents any taint with odour.  Let your toy air dry before storing it away for future use.

Post contains links to Lovehoney, where similar toys described can be purchased.