The weekend is here my Dark Darlings! The weather is not looking very kind at the moment so perhaps you had best snuggle up with your laptop/tablet/phone and browse some wonderful links which have kept me entertained this week. Some are sexy, some are informative and some will make you thoughtful - all good, no?
And please lets all be caring and gentle with our friend Pixie Heart.
I also spent some time this week reading all the great entries in the latest stage of the Smut Marathon - I struggled to choose the 3 I liked best, then I made some (hopefully) constructive comments about others I'd enjoyed. We all entered the competition to learn and challenge ourselves so if those of you not entered could spare time to use the link and review the entries you can pick your 3 favourites too, making all the participants very grateful. You don't have to leave comments but I know when I was a contestant, I was hungry for clues as to what worked and what didn't for my readers.
Finally - my blogger in the hot lights and the comfy chair this week is Hannah whose blog is entitled Confess Hannah. She shares her origins, her kinks and opens up to us about what gives her writing that particular 'flavour' - if you haven't come across her writing already, I suggest you hop on her links and get familiar with it! Enjoy darlings!
- What made you decide to write a sex blog?
I remember my first foray into erotic literature, finding a book in my Mum’s drawer which featured a man and three women, venturing into quite extreme Adult Baby Diaper Lover territory. Not the easiest of starts, especially considering I wasn’t very old at the time! I then started to read Scarlett magazine, and I used to keep the Cliterature section of erotic stories to read over and over again, whilst also finding my way into dark (consensual and safe) corners of the internet. I realised how much power words and stories had on my formative sexual experiences. It was only after reading Girl on the Net’s blogs and books however that I decided to try and enter the world of sex blogging.
- What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?
Hannah is a name which is very personal to me. I don’t write under a different character, I write as me (but perhaps a carefully curated version of me) and Hannah embodies everything I do and share as a sex blogger. Confess Hannah became a choice of Twitter handle first, then my blog name, because it reflects my confessional style of blogging and writing. I’m pretty rubbish at writing scenarios I haven’t, at least minorly, been involved in, and I use both my blog and Twitter timeline to confess all sorts of mischief I’ve been up to.
- Describe your blog in a nutshell:
Confess Hannah is the filthy part of my brain. I share my experiences and accounts of all manner of things, as well as thoughts on love and relationships, sex and body positive photographs and occasional pieces of flash fiction. I also allow readers to submit confessions to me, which very occasionally I publish. Many readers come to me worrying that they are not normal, and telling me that reading my blog has helped them realise that not isn't the case.
- How long have you been blogging on this theme?
I’ve been writing for two years now, with my blog being in its current form for about a year.
- What is your favourite type of adult toy?
So the thing I must confess todays is that I am a sex blogger who doesn’t like a lot of sex toys. I am referring to vibrators mostly because I don’t like internal vibrations. The great thing about being part of this community is having access to a lot of knowledge on different kinds of toys that would enhance my experience. I have a Doxy, which I do love, but I think my favourite type of toy is definitely anal plugs. Anal stimulation is really powerful to me, and I especially enjoy plugs made of glass or metal.
- If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:
My Njoy Pure Plug, definitely. It is hard and heavy and I have very intense orgasms when paired with stimulation of my clitoris or through penetration.
- What’s your current sexuality? At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?
I am bisexual. I realised I was bisexual when I was about 12, but I am still finding the right ‘fit’ for me. A lot of my kink experience has revolved around males. Partly because I still find it especially difficult to approach the women I am interested in - which has always been the case.
- What’s your preference - naked or “dressed up” for sex? If dressed up, how so?
I love being naked. I think it is the state I feel most at home in, yet I absolutely adore lingerie and the way I feel in it. My preference isn’t really one or the other.
- Strip me down naked, so I feel vulnerable and exposed while you are clothed? Yes please.
- Make me twirl around for you in a pretty skirt, as you lie there naked? That would also work.
- Realise we don’t have the patience to take anything off, and try and have sex by only moving a few garments aside? You get the idea...
- Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?
Long(er) answer: At this current moment I have a real want to try an MMF threesome, or even gangbang (how many is the minimum?) where my submissive little self is used, a lot. I’m also experimenting with humiliation play so it would be interesting to see where that goes, and if the two could be combined. But, I am a very open person. I have some very hard limits, but I’m open to try most things with the right people in the right environment.
- Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:
Part of me wants to look intellectual and bookish here (I was once a librarian!), and cite some amazing character from a long lost novel. Part of me wants to say George of the Jungle.
- Anal sex - Meh or Yay?
- Sex needn’t always be serious - do you have a funny moment to share?
Funny moments during sex are my favourite. There is nothing like the feeling of laughing during sex, it’s such a release and can be a real ice breaker.
I think my favourite moment was when a pal and I decided to climb a munro, and had a wee fumble in the grass on the way up. It was such a beautiful view, really open across this valley, and prior to this we had watched about fifty deer run along the base of the hill and could have made for a really hot story. And yes, it was hot. But we also slid down the grass on our knees a lot. Also, as I was laid back on the grass I saw his face change to terror, for a moment, and he simply said ‘What if we get stampeded like on the Lion King by those deer?!’
- Sexting - love it or hate it?
I have a very marmite relationship with sexting, but I think I fall more, now, on the love side. I’ve had internet/ phone based arrangements in the past which has done absolutely nothing to satisfy my sexual needs. Yes, I’m a submissive but I have found it hard to obey people when I know they can’t physically punish me (I’m really just a little brat). But I LOVE sexting people who I know there is potential with, or I have a connection or relationship with. I’ve been trying again with the messaging people from a distance thing, and now I’m part of a more kinky community I’m finding I’m getting a lot more from it. Maybe these folk just know how to really get to me? Sex-positive kinky folk, feel free to engage.
- Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?
So, I could go two ways here. I could talk about a hot pre-fuck scene in a newish movie. Or I could talk about the scene which means the most to me and my sexuality, even though it is a Disney film. And as I share everything else, I might as well talk about the Disney film (sorry if I ruin Disney for you).
My favourite mainstream film which, for me, has huge erotic undertones, is The Hunchback of Notre Dame. Weird, you may think, but once I deconstruct - not at all. The scene where she is going to be burned at the stake, where she has been taken hostage and is wearing a plain but ripped cream robe and is bound at the wrists? Or even the scene where Frollo is singing about his desire for a forbidden woman, and the part where he has his hand around her neck? Not exactly shocking I turned out to be a submissive yet bratty woman, with dark desires for (consensually) awful, older and powerful men.
- Do you watch porn?
- Nominate your favourite adult film:
If I can’t include the time I recorded myself masturbate for 15 mins, then snuck it into a partner's hard drive full of porn ...
I would have to say We Know You’re Watching (X Confessions; Erika Lust)
- Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:
Oh my, just one? I have so many fabulous ones I wish I could share. Naturally, I would share my wonderful friend Hannah Lockhardt’s work here, but as she recently completed an interview for you I’m going to have to go for Amy’s Coffee and Kink (coffeeandkink.me). Amy started blogging at a similar time to myself, and continues to inspire me with her insights into relationships and ability to educate on all manner of things sexual.
Thank you so much Hannah for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!
You can find Hannah on Twitter: @confess_hannah
Or Hannah's blog: www.confesshannah.com